Tuesday, February 3, 2009


Some of you may be wondering why I have all these adoption blogs I read. Well I hope to one day adopt. At this time in my life I am not prepared. I hope to be soon. But there are so many things going on in the Ethiopian adoption program for singles it got discouraging for a moment. I am believer that life has it seasons and maybe it is not mine yet.

When I tell people that I am going to adopt these are the questions I get
1. Why?
2. Are you sure?
3. You don't want to have kids of your own?
4. Why not adopt from this country.
or the most popular comment
Wait till you get a husband.
Depending on what kind of mood I am in affects the answer they get.

I have decided on adoption because I feel I have been called to do so. When I was younger I asked my mother to adopt a child. It did not happen but in the back of mind I knew I would adopt when I became an adult. In 2005 I returned to school to complete my degree. I completely switched majors and decided on psychology and sociology. I told myself that I may not adopt right know but I could work in the field. I am very dedicated to getting more Afr Americans interested in domestic and international adoption. I started reading blogs. At this time it was very hard for me to find Afr Americans blogging about this. It kinda made me wonder if there were any out there. To my delight I found some(Praise Jesus). I hope they don't mind me looking at their blogs.

One of my personal dilemmas with adoption is that I would be a single mother right know. I would love to have a husband and have children or adopt children with him, but getting married is not guaranteed neither is having children naturally. I am not giving up but I am realistic. I want my child to have a father, but also think that there are so many orphans that one parent could be better than no parent. I don't know. I go back and forth on this all the time.

So I will stop here. This post could become a whole book. More to come later.


  1. Hi KMR,

    Glad to blog you. I love your background. I see you're from St. Louis. I was born there and have several relatives there. I look forward to reading your post.

  2. God has planted a seed in the heart and it is up to you to see it grow. Don't let not having a husband stop you. I would have never purchased my home if I was waying on him. I had the mind set that I should wait and my husband and me purchase our home together. You can't live life waying. God wants us to be active.

    I was one of the people who asked why. But I asked why, because I wanted to know your thoughts and your heart. I could hear the passion in your voice and your determination. It gives me joy to say my sister is going to adopt a child from Ethiopian. You are definitely doing something special for a precious deserving child.

    Keep the fire in your heart!

    Love ya,

  3. Angela,

    Thanks for checking my blog out. Isn't that funny, I have relatives and friends all over the surrounding areas of memphis.

  4. Sister,

    Thanks for the encouragement.