Pre Adoption Workshop

I received a flyer from a adoption agency that I don't remember signing up for. It was to inform me of an upcoming meeting pertaining to international adoption programs and requirements and so forth. What I didn't understand is why this meeting requires a fee of $90. Needless to say I did not respond. I don't think you should have to pay for an informational meeting. Maybe I am wrong. For those who have adopted or are in the process, Is this normal?

Pink Or Blue

My sister and I were talking and she had a concern about the adoption blogs I have introduced her to. She wanted to know why the majority of blogs she has read are about women or couples that are adopting girls. I told her that I really couldn't speak for anyone else, but for me I would be fine with either sex but prefer a girl. She asked why. I let her know that me being a single mother (which she fully understands because she is one) I feel boys need fathers.(Especially Afr Americans, which is how my child will be viewed whether it is from Africa or not) Not to say that girls don't, but I can not teach him how to be a man. I can introduce him to many things, guide him to live right, but I can never take the place of a father.

This got me to thinking, if I really have a call to adopt should it matter what sex the child is? If I was having a child naturally I really wouldn't have a choice. I don't know I really am flip flopping about this subject.

ADOPTION

Some of you may be wondering why I have all these adoption blogs I read. Well I hope to one day adopt. At this time in my life I am not prepared. I hope to be soon. But there are so many things going on in the Ethiopian adoption program for singles it got discouraging for a moment. I am believer that life has it seasons and maybe it is not mine yet.

When I tell people that I am going to adopt these are the questions I get
1. Why?
2. Are you sure?
3. You don't want to have kids of your own?
4. Why not adopt from this country.
or the most popular comment
Wait till you get a husband.
Depending on what kind of mood I am in affects the answer they get.

I have decided on adoption because I feel I have been called to do so. When I was younger I asked my mother to adopt a child. It did not happen but in the back of mind I knew I would adopt when I became an adult. In 2005 I returned to school to complete my degree. I completely switched majors and decided on psychology and sociology. I told myself that I may not adopt right know but I could work in the field. I am very dedicated to getting more Afr Americans interested in domestic and international adoption. I started reading blogs. At this time it was very hard for me to find Afr Americans blogging about this. It kinda made me wonder if there were any out there. To my delight I found some(Praise Jesus). I hope they don't mind me looking at their blogs.

One of my personal dilemmas with adoption is that I would be a single mother right know. I would love to have a husband and have children or adopt children with him, but getting married is not guaranteed neither is having children naturally. I am not giving up but I am realistic. I want my child to have a father, but also think that there are so many orphans that one parent could be better than no parent. I don't know. I go back and forth on this all the time.

So I will stop here. This post could become a whole book. More to come later.