Thursday, April 9, 2009


I had a court hearing today for my volunteer position. I submitted my report detailing the issues concerning the case and the problems that I was having with the father. The judge decided that the child could be returned to father until permanency hearing. The thing that broke my heart was that the current foster parents started crying. It took a lot for me to hold it together. But I used my skills and I talked to them and gave them encouraging words. I let them know that I was praying for them and they thanked me for my help and concern. They were fantastic foster parents. I hope they decide that they would like to participate again because we need tham.


  1. Oh kmr,

    My husband and I thought of becoming a foster parent. I just didn't want to go through the time when we would have to lose them. I cut up when the foster babies left the nursery when I worked in staffing. That would have torn me up to see it too.

  2. I'm glad you pull it together, because I don't think I could have. I don't know about volunteering, because I don't enjoy showing my emotions to the world.

    I'm proud of you!

  3. KMR,
    Yes the foster parent thing is serious, but some people really enjoy it and it is their calling. I have friends and a family member who adopted that way and it worked out for them. It is easier when the parents rights have been terminated or the child is in the states custody due to different reasons. I have a cousin who received an infant through the foster care system and she was single. It took about two years for her to adopt her, but she is hers. Friends of ours adopted one through the county as well and it took about 2 years for TPR and it all worked out. Whats for you is for you. Everyone has their own tolerance levels and sometimes its a growing process. It is not an easy process with any of them.
    There are some people who get the infants through foster care and it is really a smoothe ride because I guess it depends upon the situation that the parents are in and what has gone on.
    I wish you luck with whatever route that you chose. Financially, it is helpful for many who go this route if they get the right situation and can deal with visits if visits are mandated during the time. In addition, one advantage is that when the child comes to you through Foster care, that child will generally have supplemental insurance (Medicaid). Most people keep it and also have private insurance as well, but it comes in handy for the parents if the child has to have any services or therapy in the future. It definitely helps, especially if a child is born premature and they may have early intervention services and these services can be costly. The extra insurance does help. There are some other benefits too, but it all depends on what the parent wants to endure.